In which I defend my family

The Pink Chaddi Campaign alluded to a couple of posts ago has attracted much criticism from people across the political spectrum. Some of these criticisms I agree with entirely, even while I believe the campaign will have a largely positive impact. Some I don’t agree with, but still seem at least valid. Some, like this magnificent effort of Kanchan Gupta’s, are revalatory – He informs me that I have no respect for lower- and middle-classworking women, Ishwar Chandra Vidyasagar or vegetarians, and that I model my lifestyle on Sex and the City, a show of which I have seen exactly two episodes (and the movie). The minor factor of the Sri Ram Sene is mentioned in the last paragraph of the article, but clearly the Bacardi drinking libertines are the immediate issue.

Then there is the parent counterargument. The idea, as I understand it, is that all this “liberalism” stuff is all very well (except when the commentator is saying that it isn’t, of course), but would you like to see your daughters going to the pub? There is a definite “gotcha!” tone to it. Aha, you didn’t think of that, did you? See how I cunningly expose you as a hypocrite, since clearly no parent would ever dream of tolerating this behaviour from a daughter:

I FOUND THE ARTICLE A REALLY GOOD ONE. EVEN I CONDEMN THE ASSAULT ON THE GIRLS, BUT WHY THE PEOPLE SUPPORTING THOSE PERSON WHO SAYS PUB CULTURE IS GOOD I DON’T UNDERSTAND. I DIDN’T GET TO SEE ANY ARTICLE ABOUT THE PARENTS OF ASSAULTED GIRLS SAYING ANY THING ABOUT THERE DAUGHTER’S ATTACK, I GUESS THEY ALSO KNOW THAT ITS A WRONG CULTURE. SO WHY PEOPLE MAKE SO MUCH HUNGAMA ALL OVER AND ABOUT MS RENUKA CHOWDHARY WERE SHE WAS WHEN BOYS AND GIRLS CAUGHT ON RAGE PARTY (G.S Shetty from Dubai on the Kanchan Gupta article)


Ask Nisha how much she will love,her kids going to pub and returning back boozed up. (Shishir Aggarwal
on Rediff)

Mothers in the blog think seriously what you want you daughter and what you want for her future..unwanted pregnancies and abortions or a happy life? (Naina, at the Consortium blog. Everytime you drink a pint, a foetus dies.)

And so on. I could link to more, but this would require skimming the Rediff forums again, and…no. There’s also a variation on the theme (again, Rediff) where “daughter” is substituted with “sister” when the commentor happens to be male. It is assumed that the male sibling is genuinely invested in his sister’s social life. Not having a male sibling myself I cannot say. I do have parents, though, and quite good ones. And on their behalf I feel that I should object to the assumption that they cannot approve of my loose, pubgoing self. I’m not so sure about the looseness (I think they’d ask for a definition before committing to any particular stance) but they certainly know about, and have never objected to, the pubgoing. Getting home safely at night, yes, they think this is a valid concern. My health, yes, my mother occassionally makes pointed remarks about my liver. But going into a pub and having a few drinks? I suspect the idea that they should be horrified would baffle them both.

Favourite comments on the issue so far:

You are like street/stray dogs which have sex with different dogs and go on have sex with dogs born out of the earlier effort. (“Shankar“, at Neha Vish’s blog)

would kalpana chawla have protested in this manner? (“msbharati” at Rediff. WWKCD?)

We are modern youths of India sending pink chaddis to Muthalik and tomorrow we want to run naked on street–and who dares to stop us.

We the people of India will bring ARMAGADON together. (Sayan, at Neha Vish’s blog again)

So, while you launch this awesome campaign,I would suggest that you also maybe can get some couples to come and fornicate in public. Huh? You DO want to be pioneers, don’t you? So, yeah. Fornicate in public, after all it’s just a step further than smooching in public. Yeah. THose who DONT display affection i public are soooo boring, yes? They dont have a love life, yeah? So, all you club hopping, forward looking, convent educated, ipod owning, beer drinking, porn watching, expletive throwing, women … do it in public!! YEA!!! YEA !! Three cheers for the “FREEDOM” (to be objectified) of the Indian Woman. May we soon become like America where every Indian woman has the right to do porn if needed to support herself or merely because SHE CAN !! Oh yeah…!!! (Nagendra, at the Consortium blog. I think he’s being sarcastic.)

And I think this may be the best one ever.

This is quintessence of decadence. It is heartily sick of observing a passal of “so-called lettered” janes of India falling victim to hedonism together with playing the giddy goat by getting played into the hands of a bunch of Pied pipers of the ilk of Renuka/sonia/Nisha Susan…India has to cover a country mile if she is serious enoungh to make her presence felt in the international arena. So, it is the bounden duty of all the RATIONAL-MINDED indians to buck up their minds in executiing first things first.All these pub/disco and all such farce have no future in india and do not qualify as conversation piece. Nisha would deserve kudos had she chewed even for a nanosecond over the idea of bringing about a sea change in the lives of those women who sit at the bottom of the heap and have a feeling that society has failed them. Women of nisha’s ilk live a life in the ivory tower and totally insouciant about the tribulations of the ordinary women. They always engage in playing to the gallery and all these hoopla are nothing but one more joust to turn heads.Nisha and other joiners cudgel your brain that not even before a decade these VALENTINESAND SUCH BLAH..BLAH BLAH….were not part and parcel of our lives. We simply got swayed by some merchant princes who for their kitty’s sake made us to rise to their bait. The best answer to this kind of grotesque megrim is to ignore them.Nisha may get some headless chickens in her foolish movement but mass shall steer clear of it. (“Typhoid Mary” at Rediff. I love it.)

5 Comments to “In which I defend my family”

  1. I suspect Typhoid Mary is actually Tuhin Sinha.

    And your parents are excellent.

  2. Well, I suppose those are the kind of people who make the ‘goondaism’ possible.

  3. @Aadisht
    Not so fast. Mary could also be NovoneeL Chakraborty.

  4. In the same vein, did you read this comment by a fabulous work of art called ‘smitha’ on Greatbong’s post on the same topic?? Here it is:
    http://greatbong.net/2009/02/03/the-talli-ban/#comment-683251

    I actually want to meet her/him !!

  5. Aadisht – They’re quite good, aren’t they? I am fond of them.
    I suspect Typhoid Mary is the architect of an elaborate hoax; surely someone with such a great name could hardly write like a longwinded nitwit?

    Unmana – Yes, and I should probably be afraid of them instead of finding them so funny. But oh well.

    Vishal – Mary could be NovoneeL, but then, see, I actually recognise all those words.

    Shivani – That was a comment I had not seen. And…wow. I’m supposed to be ashamed of my mother when she drinks or wears western clothing now?

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